I adopted an extremely difficult special needs child with no clue to her problems: a little Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (enough to stymie her ability to read or count), terrific anger and emotional outbursts and transgender. It was an ENORMOUS learning curve. And tests the most narcissistic of parents ( I'm afraid Myka qualifies as one. It takes one to know one. I was narcissistic as well. Wanting my daughter to look and act well for my sake.) Long story short. We never gave up on our daughter. At age 22 she chose to move back to her own country and birth family. Not everyone is capable of the love required of a special needs child. Recognizing that and being honest to yourself and others is essential. I don't fault Myka -- I just think she should come clean and admit: "I wasn't the parent I thought or dreamed or hoped I could be."